[Note: Today is the 21st day of the moon cycle which was sent yesterday.
Also, today the sun is in 2 Leo, also sent yesterday.
Today's sun message of 3 Leo will be tomorrow's message.
My apologies for the errors, am still recovering from 4 days of no internet, hopefully all is corrected now.]
c. Paul Michael Schlosser PhD. 2002
If you are answering these questions by yourself, allow plenty of time to answer deeply each question.
Write down insights, feelings, and memories that come up with each question.
By doing this yourself, you many take as much time as you like, even days and weeks, to ponder deeply each question
and come up with the answer.
It is helpful to have a journal to write down your insights over time.
Give these answers to the grieving person upon completion of the exercise.
Then, pause for a few
moments of silence after they
stop to ensure that they
Next, you ask for
permission to guide their
further processing via a
series of ordered questions,
you mind if I facilitate the
further processing of
your feelings about___________?
[Write the name of the person who has passed on in the blank,
below we use the name John as an example].
the answer is yes, then you
set the stage for the
you are about to do in
order to get an agreed
upon “container” or
For example, “I’d like
to help you release all your
I’m going to ask you a question like, ‘What are you feeling about John’s death?’
which will be my first question.
Just answer with the
first thing that comes
into your mind regardless of whether it makes any sense,
irrelavent, is repetitious,
or any other rational consideration.
Trust your automatic
response to be what you
need to allow to come out.
I won’t be judging you
regardless of what you say,
this process works best if you don’t either.
Just allow whatever
comes out to be OK\
with you—regardless of content.
Go with your first reaction.
“After you complete each reply I’ll say something validating
your right to say anything you please,
such as, “Thank you for sharing.”
“Then I’ll ask the same question again,
& you again respond with the first thing that comes into your head, etc.
We continue going deeper into the heart, asking the question again and again,
as many times as it takes until you feel an intuitive completion with the question.
…Do you understand?…Are you ready to begin?”
you get the OK, just ask the
& validate each reply with
‘Thank you for sharing’,
& ask it again and again.)
#1 “What are you feeling about (John)’s death?”
asking each question for at
least 10-20 minutes—at least
long enough that
the intensity of the responses seem to be getting more & more subdued.
The length of time to ask each question will vary with the ‘juice’ you get. Stay with intensity.)
#2 “What has upset you (the most) about (John)’s death?
#3 “Tell me one thing you’ll miss about (John).”
#4 “What was beautiful to you about (John)?”
“beautiful” is not exactly the
right word, you can substitute
which is more acceptable to the mourner, such as ‘special’, ‘inspiring’, etc.)
#5 “Say everything you still need to say to (John) in order to ‘finish’ with him?”
#6 (Optional, depending on the outcome of Question #5)
“If he were here in
this room sitting right across
from you, what would you
say to him now?”
(Often, it’s best to close eyes during this exercise.)
“What has he taught you
that you will carry on in your
own life?” OR
#8 “How would you like to remember (John)?
impression somewhere in
yourself, such as your
does that feel?”)